Everything You Need To Know About (DDlg) Relationships - Oxy-shop

05-17-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium 


DDLG: EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW

BDSM as a concept is mostly misunderstood. However, one of the most misunderstood types of BDSM relationships is the Daddy Dom/little girl dynamic (DDlg). A lot of people have wrong opinions about this aspect of BDSM.

 

Some take it as just a fun role-playing with clothing and outfits while for others, it is their identity. This article clears all misconceptions and teaches everything about ageplay.


DDlg relationship - Everything You Need to Know

WHAT DOES DDLG STAND FOR?


DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It is a dynamic of BDSM relationships in the form of age-play—a kink or fetish where one takes on the role of the caregiver (daddy) and a child (little). But this is just the definition. In practice, it is a lot wider.

 

Commonly, the daddy takes on the dominant role. But there are cases where littles assume the dominant position by being “brats” or “princesses.” They could even switch roles.

 

A DDlg relationship could be sexual, but it doesn’t always have to be. Some practice it in private, others, as part of their daily lives.

 

It is a roleplay that involves power exchange. It depends on the two consenting adults and is definitely NOT a relationship between a father and child.


VARIATIONS OF DDLG RELATIONSHIPS


DDLG is only a sub- set in the big tree of BDSM. There are other aspects under BDSM and some of them are:

 

  • Age-play – A role play where one acts or treats another as if they’re at a different age (i.e., an adult acts like a child).
  • CGL – It refers to caregiver/little and also involves roleplay.

 

While these two aspects are separate, they’re often connected. Still, not everyone into CGL dynamics is into age-play, so they’re still distinct.

 

CGL is what DDlg falls under and there are other variants under it such as;


  • DDLG – Daddy Dom Little Girl
  • DDLB – Daddy Dom Little Boy
  • MDLG – Mommy Dom Little Girl
  • MDLB – Mommy Dom Little Boy
  • TDLB – Trans Daddy Little Boy
  • TDLG – Trans Daddy Little Girl
  • TMLG – Trans Mommy Little Girl
  • TMLB – Trans Mommy Little Boy

WHY DO AGEPLAYERS FIND THE DD/LG RELATIONSHIP SO FULFILLING?


It can be hard to explain this lifestyle or know what things to say to someone who doesn’t understand this kink. But check out some reasons people enjoy this lifestyle;

 

  • The way DDlg has been mostly termed as a 'taboo' makes it more kinkier and enjoyable for some people.
  • Exploring deeper realms of sexual play increases intimacy and connection between partners. Pain always has a way of deepening the bond between BDSM partners. Think of how connected you'd feel to your Dom when he comes to cuddle you in the aftercare, after an intense session.
  • Also, while there are many ways to experience sexual pleasure, people engage in kinks to experience a heightened sense of pleasure and DDlg is one way to do that!

HOW TO BE A DADDY DOM


As a Daddy Dom, you take on the role of the caregiver. You are to dominate and discipline your little.

 

Usually men are naturally attracted to youth and innocence, and having a little meets that need continuously. You have the responsibility to be a reliable shoulder for your little and dote on them.  Your little needs to be able to count on you to “fix it” when things get hard.

 

Littles are constantly seeking the praise and attention of their Daddy and will do their best to please him. You should praise your little girl when they please you. When your baby girl disobeys rules, you are responsible for disciplining her in any way you desire, (and both of you have consented to). You should also fulfill your little's sexual needs.

 

Here's how Kori Amity on Quora takes on their Daddy Dom responsibilities;

 

"...I am to give her a safe and nurturing environment for her to be in her “Little Space", stuffed animals, pacifiers, bottles, more stuffed animals, and whatever else she may need. I am to be the “adult", assuming the responsibility and authority of the relationship, for better or worse. I am her rock, or more accurately based on my physique, her bone pillar, and she is my living, squishy, stuffed animal…"


WHAT IS A LITTLE IN A DDLG RELATIONSHIP?


A little in a DDlg relationship embraces their inner child. Some of them might have never outgrown it regardless of their age. Littles could take on the characteristics of newborns up to 12 years old. If the age is around 13 to 17, they are referred to as “middle.” The age doesn't have to be fixed. The little is free to change their age anytime.

 

Littles want to be looked after, cared for, and protected by their Daddy. She gives control to the Daddy in the relationship whom she must trust that he will do what’s best for her. Most littles are submissive. However, some could be bratty and bossy as well.

 

ShiningLouna on Reddit explains what being a little means for them;

 

"...For me being little means keeping my innocence, looking at the world with child eyes, seeing the good in people, getting very excited for small things that I like, keeping magic alive, believing that fairies are hiding in the forest and that my Daddy can talk to them. It's in the way I view the world and interact with people. It's not only a moment or a headspace, it's part of me and my personality. It's keeping my openness and vulnerability…"


IDEAS FOR DD/LG ACTIVITIES


Take a look at some ideas for DDlg activities ranging from innocent to sexual;

 

  • Having a stuffie or dolls
  • Keeping a journal
  • Making cookies
  • Watching cartoons
  • Taking little on a shopping spree
  • Pigtail Making & Hairbrushing
  • Play Battles
  • Read a Bedtime Story
  • Dressing Up and getting dressed by Daddy Dom
  • Pet play

                  FAQs 


                  ● IS DDLG DIFFERENT FROM ABDL AND PETPLAY?


                  DDLG could involve age-play of any age from a newborn to age 6-12 for a little or 13-17 for the middle. Meanwhile, ABDL (Adult Baby Diaper Lover) is only for adults who regress to baby age. They may or may not do this with a caregiver.


                  While petplay has some similarities with DDLG. There is still a power exchange and roleplay involved where the little is the “pet,” and the Dom is the “master.” Examples are; kitten play or puppy play where the bottom may be leashed, walked, caged, and petted.


                  ● DOES DDLG COME FROM PERSONAL FATHER OR MOTHER ISSUES?


                  It may or not be. However, people who practice DDLG relationships shouldn’t be generalized as people with father or mother issues—especially as there’s no evidence or unreputable data to indicate that to be 100% true for each and every person who practices it.


                  CONCLUSION


                  Ageplaying is a great way to heal your inner child and mix childlike innocence with naughty sexual curiosity. Age play is not pedophilia. The DD/lg lifestyle is always a great option for people looking to strengthen and have a healthy BDSM relationship. They make the BDSM lifestyle more fulfilling for both partners.


                  Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com. 

                  Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer. 

                  "I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure" 

                  Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices  for educational and entertainment purposes. 


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