Half way there! #Locktober
Half way there! #Locktober
11-07-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
Especially in a world where purity culture is prevalent, introducing chastity play to your sex life might be a tricky subject to bring up with your partner. While some view it as a spiritual journey, others consider it a kinky experiment or a personal discipline. Regardless of the reason, starting the conversation requires sensitivity, honesty, and open-mindedness. “What if something goes wrong from introducing my girlfriend to chastity?”, “What if my partner gets pissed?”. These and a bunch of other questions might be going on in your head when you consider introducing your partner to chastity.
However, though all of the “what ifs” questions might be running through your mind about introducing chastity to your partner, you still have to speak to them about if it is something you’d love. Quite a frightening ordeal and you sure could use some tips right now. This article addresses just that.
Here are some key pointers to help you communicate with your partner about this deeply personal topic:
Before you initiate any conversation with your partner, take a moment to introspect. A moment of self-reflection will help you understand why you are drawn to chastity and help set the basis for how to introduce chastity to your wife. Is it for religious reasons, a personal challenge, a part of BDSM play, or something else entirely? Being clear about your reasons will give you confidence and allow you to articulate your feelings and desires more effectively.
This is one of the most important parts of introducing chastity to your partner. The ideal thing is to speak to them about chastity when they are in a good mood. It won’t hurt to help them have a good day and be in high spirits before bringing it up. Starting a conversation about something as intimate as chastity requires privacy and a conducive environment. Opt for a quiet space where both of you can speak freely without distractions. Ensure you both have ample time, so the conversation is not rushed.
Instead of directly plunging into the topic, consider starting with broader questions about your relationship, intimacy, and boundaries. For instance, “How do you feel about exploring different facets of our intimacy?” or “Are there things you’ve wanted to discuss or try in our relationship?”. You may also casually ask them to share their sexual fantasies with you.
Once you broach the subject, be honest about your feelings and desires. Start by saying you have sexual fantasies you would love to share with them. Use “I” statements to avoid sounding confrontational or like you are imposing something, such as “I've been considering exploring chastity for personal/spiritual reasons and would love to hear your thoughts.”
Except your partner is familiar with BDSM and kinks, they might be confused about the concept of chastity or might only know about it superficially. This is an opportunity to get them interested. Calmly explain what it is and tell them how it will benefit both of you. Do not make it about yourself alone. Also, sharing articles, books, or even forums will be beneficial. Offer resources but do not overwhelm them. The goal is to educate, not to convince. We recommend this simplebeginner's guide to male chastity and talking to them about thebest male chastity devices you both can explore. Thisultimate guide to male chastity is also a great resource to get information.
While it is great that you have expressed your feelings, you must also understand your partner's perspective. Give them ample time to process the information and voice their thoughts. Listen without interrupting, and validate their feelings even if they do not align with yours. If they are still unsure about how they feel about it, give them enough time to think about it and ask them casually after a few days.
It is natural for your partner to have concerns or fears. They might worry about the dynamics of your relationship changing or feel insecure about the reasons behind this choice. You need to address these concerns head-on and assure your partner of your commitment to the relationship to alleviate some of these apprehensions. Help them understand how in fact,male chastity can improve your relationship
If your partner is hesitant, suggest starting with a short trial period. This allows both of you to experience what it is like without making a long-term commitment. It could be as short as a day or as long as a month, depending on your comfort levels.
If the topic brings up strong emotions or if there is a deadlock, consider seeking the guidance of a relationship counselor or therapist. They can offer a neutral perspective and provide tools and strategies to navigate the conversation. You would also do well with the advice of aBDSM connoisseur. They have the experience to explain the dynamics better to your partner and might get them to change their mind.
Remember, just as you have reasons to explore chastity, your partner might have reasons to not want to participate or engage in the conversation. Respect their feelings and decisions. A relationship thrives on mutual respect and understanding.
Divarkive on Redditoffers some advice on how to introduce chastity to your wife;
Discussion and baby steps are your best option. When I went to my girlfriend now wife about being locked in chastity, she jumped at the idea of literally having me under lock and key. Don’t jump right into “Hey I have a cage on my penis wanna see?” Go more into the idea of chastity and what it represents. For a man to just give a woman a key to the single most important body part a man has is a huge deal. It shows commitment and loyalty. It’s what I spun with my wife, and I am rarely without my cage on.
If your partner has agreed to explore chastity with you, congratulations! The next step is to build your collection. The Oxy-Shop male chastity collection is a great place to start.
Starting a conversation about chastity with your partner is, undoubtedly, a courageous step. Do all you can to introduce this topic to your girlfriend in the most reasonable way. Regardless of the outcome, you will open the door for conversations that will strengthen the bond you share with your partner. Also, remember that chastity, like all aspects of intimacy, is deeply individual. Ensure to understand and honor where both you and your partner stand.
Introducing chastity will change the dynamics of your relationship. It is an avenue for you and your partner to discover yourselves and a unique way to strengthen your bond.
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
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