Happy Locktober!
Happy Locktober!
01-27-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
Ever been in a situation where you just had an explosive kinky experience with your partner, your emotions are all high, then a few hours or a day later, you can't seem to understand why you have an overwhelming feeling of loneliness and depression? Sigh. You were in a sub drop.
If you are coming across this term for the first time or you've heard of it before but do not understand what it entails, read this article to find out everything about sub drops and how to recover from sub drops by practising proper sub drop aftercare.
Sub drop is the bodyâs response to the sudden drop of hormones in the body after a play session. The endorphins and other hormones like adrenaline and oxy-tocin (The idea of where the name of our shop came from) , released during BDSM play that causes subspace, leave your body and it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. The physical and emotional reaction to the withdrawal of those hormones causes sub drop. You may feel emotions ranging from depression, sadness, frustration. In fact, you may even experience flu-like symptoms.
Sub drop can be said to be similar to withdrawal from hard substances. It can get that bad. They are also known to be more common in committed and long-term relationships than casual sex relationships.
The range of symptoms of Sub Drop is usually vast and unique to each person. Although most of the symptoms are physical in nature, there are emotional symptoms as well. Take a look at some of them:
1. Physical Symptoms
2. Emotional Symptoms
There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Check them out:
Before we continue, here is what Hans West, a BDSM coach on Quora said on sub-drops taking responsibility for their aftercare.
âSome Dom(me)s do not like to give aftercare and in these cases, it might be important that you take care of yourself and create a network that helps you to take care of your aftercare. Aftercare can be outsourced (also important for the Dom(me) to not step into the pitfall of perfectionism and hide the fact that you are not good at it).â
One way to deal with your sub's drop as a dom is to put extra effort in making sure they feel loved and supported. Extra calls and messages when you can't be around them will go a long way. You could also add some more aftercare activities and communicate with your partner to know when they need to be alone or need attention.
A sub drop could begin anywhere from a few hours to a few days and may even last up to weeks.
The truth is sub drop is a hard phase. But it doesn't have to be so bad everytime it happens. With enough preparation and knowledge of proper sub drop aftercare, you can embrace the experience, learn from the emotions you feel and mitigate the effects of the next episode of sub drop. Goodluck and take care!
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure"
Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices for educational and entertainment purposes.