Whether you limit your BDSM role play to your sessions or you incorporate them in your everyday life, you and your partner should consider adopting BDSM names. See why:

• They Give You The Right Mindset: Using BDSM names helps you get into your role comfortably. It has the same effect of turning the lights off, putting on some nice music and setting the mood for sex. BDSM names set up the right mood for some BDSM action.
• BDSM Names Help To Reinforce Your Roles:While some people use BDSM names only during a session, others use them even while they are going about their normal lives. For those who use BDSM names outside the bedroom, it helps to reinforce and remind each person of their roles in the relationship even while going about their normal lives.
• Naming Ceremony: You could also choose to organise a special naming ceremony for you and your partner in an appropriate location. Some people even have collaring ceremonies to show their commitment to their partners.
• Big ‘D’ and Little ‘S’:These titles are used in some kinky spaces to indicate if someone is a dom or sub. Subs usually write their names in lowercase and doms put their names in uppercase.

The dominant name you call your partner is completely up to you. The appropriate names make your dominant partner feel powerful and in character. Check out some dominant names suitable for females and males respectively:

Check out some sexy names you can call your female dominant partners either during or outside a session:

N.B: Mistress is the female version of Master. However, a lot of people do not like that it depicts human slavery. So if you fall into this category, a better option is ‘Khaleesi’ which has its origin from Game of Thrones. You can also get inspiration from your favourite movie characters, book characters or military titles. 

Names such as ‘Queen’ or ‘Goddess’ are also good choices for dominant names for females because they instil a sense of power and exaltation. You may also add descriptors such as ‘majestic’ and ‘glorious’ to give it a bit of drama. 

Names such as ‘Domina’ and ‘Princess’ are less common dom names for females. If you are looking for something elegant, you should try out Domina. Princess creates a less sense of power than other names.

Dominant names for your male partner are just the masculine form of the feminine names listed above: 

Choosing the perfect dominant name for your dom partner is subjective and might be confusing. Take a look at some general tips you can consider to pick the right one:

• Make it personal: Choose a dominant name for your partner based on what sounds and feels good to you. Ensure the name makes you and your partner feel connected.
• A traditional or unique title? : Decide if you want to call your dom partner a cliché traditional royal title or a unique name. 
• Feel Free to Pick More Than One Dominant Name: It is okay to pick more than one dominant name for your partner. If you are in a location where you do not want people to suspect there is a BDSM connection, you may easily get away with ‘Sir’ or ‘Madam’. Also, you may pick different names for different role plays. 
• Add a Bit of Spice: Adding an initial or his name would make your dominant name more interesting. For example, King James, Queen Melissa, Ms. B. 
  

WHAT SHOULD A SUBMISSIVE NEVER SAY TO A DOMINANT PARTNER?

Phrases such as 'I have no limits', 'I am down for anything' are turn-offs for some doms. Your feelings and satisfaction are valid too and should be taken into consideration in drafting your BDSM contract. It's important to understand and communicate your limits clearly. If you're new to BDSM, you might find our guide on hard and soft limits in BDSM helpful.

What is a sweet nickname?

A sweet nickname is a term of endearment that can enhance the intimacy and sweetness in a Dom-sub relationship. It can create a special bond and dynamic between partners. Some sweet nicknames to consider for your Dom include Our Highness, Master, Owner, Handler, Governor, Chief, Boss, and Commander. These special names can add a sense of affection and closeness to your relationship.

What does a person call their lover by?

In the context of a D/s or Dom/sub relationship, individuals typically address their lover using various names to foster intimacy and establish distinct roles. These names often reflect power dynamics and can include terms like Daddy, Sir, Lord, Master, Mistress, Goddess, Queen, Mommy, and more. The selection of these names is often based on personal preferences and the specific dynamics of the relationship, adding a layer of authority or endearment to their interactions. For more ideas on how to enhance your Dom/sub dynamic, you might want to check out our article on ideas to make your slave feel owned.

If I can't call my boyfriend Daddy, what then?

If you're uncomfortable calling your boyfriend "Daddy," there are several alternatives you can consider. One option is to use your boyfriend's initials instead of his first name as a term of endearment. For example, you could refer to him as "K" for Kelvin or "J" for Jennifer. This way, you can still establish a special nickname for him without using the term "Daddy." It's important to communicate openly with your partner to find a term of endearment that both of you are comfortable with and that enhances your relationship.

Choosing the right dominant name for your dom partner sets the tone for your relationship. Feel free to try out different names and watch their reactions before sticking to it. A plus is that most of the names can be used during vanilla sex or amongst vanilla people. Just ensure you pick something that works best for you and your partner. Good luck!

Those BDSM name tags are a perfect discreet add on to be reminded who you are. Add to a collar, a keychain or to a piercing for example: