7 Simple & Effective rules to become a dominant wife

11-20-2019 Updated 04/10/2024- Written by Jett Oxy

Looking to become the ideal dominant wife to your sub? Here are some golden rules you should abide by to maintain a successful Female Dom Male Sub relationship.

1. Less freedom means more interest

The ideal sexual re-orientation process for a man should incorporate the pleasure that comes with allowing his woman to take charge of sexual affairs. This is called male chastity, and many couples have leveraged it to strengthen their relationships or marriages further. Male chastity can be complex or simple, depending on the parties involved. However, either way, it is naturally designed to improve the sex-life of a woman. Hence, ensure that you train your man on how to prioritize your sexual desires over his. Note that male chastity comes with less or zero freedom. The woman owns the pleasure and decides when to allow the man to have it or not.

2. Femdom is synonymous to getting the strap on

It is normal for your man to scream unusually at first. However, with time, he will get used to the pains and find ways to transition them into pleasure. At this point, he loses his customary masculine edge and adopts a gentle and cooperative nature. You will find him more submissive than ever, while his erogenous zone moves from the tip of his penis to the opening of his asshole and prostate gland. This is why experts recommend that you give your man a great fuck once in seven days. If you're new to this practice, you might want to check out our beginner's guide to the art of pegging.

3. Let him clean up after he cums

Now that you have been benevolent enough to let him have an orgasm (after yours), ensure that he cleans up his mess by himself.

Either he cums on himself, on the floor, or in you, make him clean up. This is an integral aspect of his submission and your dominance.

4. Always be in charge, even in penetrative sex

Perhaps your lover is not available to give you penetrative sex?

You can proceed with your femdom partner. However, never lose your power and dominance while at it. Make him please you using positions that do not allow him to take charge. For example, you may adopt the cowgirl position, which will enable you to control the entry and penetration of his penis.

A suitable alternative is the Amazon position, where your partner lies on his back while placing his hands behind his head. If it helps, handcuff him before positioning yourself the same way as when you are fucking him with your strapon. Now, with his legs spread and pushed backward, place his already hard cock at the entrance of your pussy and sit on it, then ride according to the rhythm that best satisfies you. Increase the pace after some time and go even deeper, while pushing his legs even further to his shoulders. This position crowns you as an “Amazon” fucking your sub.

5. Get him some panties

As a femdom wife, your submissive partner shouldn't be at liberty to choose his undergarments by himself. Instead, be the one to decide whether they can wear underwear and the exact type to wear. As part of your dominance, you may choose to have them wear girly panties or the conventional male briefs.

Once you have decided what you want them to wear, lay them out before bedtime daily. You can even take things a bit further by asking him to step out in holdup stockings. Although this will not be obvious to other people, it will ensure that he doesn't forget his status throughout the day. For more ideas on how to make your slave feel owned, check out this comprehensive list.

6. Spanking him helps to preserve his attention towards you

As a dominant wife, you must create and adhere strictly to a weekly discipline schedule for your submissive partner. Choose a particular day of the week when you will put him through a comprehensive spanking session, either over your lap, the edge of the bed, or the back of a chair. You may also add a scolding session where you reprimand his recent lackadaisical attitudes (if any), as well as the impressive things he has done over the past week. Among other things, these sessions help to remove laziness and express your accumulated displeasure. The harder you spank, the more frustration you dissipate. Never try to give or derive pleasure in a spanking or venting session. Instead, set out to deliberately pass a lesson to your partner through spanking. If you're looking for more ideas on submissive discipline, here are 30 creative BDSM punishment ideas.

7. Get yourself a lover – it further humiliates your partner

This might appear as beneficial to only you, but in reality, it benefits your partner also. Being the dominant partner here, you are entitled to some great periodic sex, as well as the pleasure that comes with cuckolding your partner. With your partner's tiny penis locked up, there is little or nothing they can do to satisfy you sexually. However, you can still explore and fulfill all your sexual fantasies and desires (alongside his) with another man. Be ready to put in the work to find a befitting and competent man for the job. Although this may take time, it is a better and safer way than fucking around with several partners. If you're interested in exploring this aspect of your relationship, you might want to read about the benefits of cuckolding.

Blending all the steps into one

You will need to put in a decent effort and some level of consistency to establish and run a FemDom relationship, so keep it simple. Now, the question is, how do you keep it simple? First, spanking should be once a week, except in rare cases where he has warranted some more punishment. Likewise, a single spanking session must not exceed 15 minutes.

Your sub must always wear their chastity cage, which should be locked at all times. Also, they must wear only the underwear you have chosen for them. This is a subtle way of telling them that you are in charge. The panties selection is quite simple, yet fun. It will take about two minutes of your time, and with time, it could become part of your daily routine. The benefits that come with keeping your partner chaste are excellent, despite requiring minimal efforts.

Another important thing is the sex. You must have proper sex with your partner, at least twice every week. To avoid inconsistencies and ensure a great sex life, set the time number of times and the days of the week to have them. Remember that the goal of these sex meetings is for you to orgasm. Also, ensure that you fuck him with a strapon, at least once every week. The time and frequency of penetrative sex are at your discretion. If he ever gets lucky enough to have an orgasm, ensure that he cleans himself up.

Finally, you need a lover as a femdom wife (apart from your partner). This is simply part of the requirements of the relationship, and it is known even to spice things up. With all these in place, you can rest assured of having the best experience and lifestyle as a dominant wife. If you're looking for more inspiration, check out our collection of male submissive quotes to keep you motivated on your femdom journey.