When it comes to BDSM, it may seem as though one can never unravel all the kinky possibilities and activities in it. If this is your first time coming across the terms ‘BDSM clothing control’ or ‘dress protocol’, relax, you are about to add to your pre-existing knowledge. Exciting stuff, yes? Perhaps, you have even heard the terms before but have no idea what they mean, stick around. This article explains everything about dress protocols in BDSM.

In BDSM, there is a wide variety of dress protocols with different reasons behind each. BDSM clothing control exists in a dom/sub relationship and is one of the ways for BDSM to spice up their relationship. Now to the business of the day:

There are a number of reasons dominants place a huge importance on dress protocol in their relationships. Check out some of the reasons:

• BDSM clothing control is one of the most evident symbols of ownership when the sub fully follows and adheres to the dress protocols. Through this, doms are able to build a preferred physical image of their sub or cause humiliation which gives the dom pleasure.
• In the case of using dress protocols at a social gathering, dress protocols are used to keep vanilla people away and to increase the sexual vibe and sensuality at the gathering. 
• Exploring and customising different outfits to fit the sub in their own world is also a fun way for BDSM couples to bond.

Here is what a dominant on darkanddominant.wordpress.com had to say about controlling his sub's dressing:

"When I was younger It used to be about dressing a submissive all sexed up – corsets, low cut top, short dresses, g strings (or thongs to you Americans). And don’t get me wrong, we (that is to say kitten and I) are very much about corsets and short dresses and g strings – that’s our tastes – but with age I’ve become, well, mature. It’s about guidance and care before control or degradation.

And then there’s the beauty of it too – how lovely it can be to dress for occasion. What’s the work day like? Is she having a low day? Will these pair of black lacy boylegs make her feel a little more confident? What about when she’s going out with her girls? Feeling a bit Halloween-y today? Let’s go with pumpkins! It’s a responsibility to do right by her as well as a sexy and touching reminder for the both of you.” 

Some things need to be put in place before establishing dress protocols in a BDSM relationship. Here is a guideline to help you and your partner in setting dress protocols:

One of the most important things to consider is to ensure that the protocols established are positive in nature. I.e. They should be statements of what to do rather than what not to do. This is because negative rules tend to be depressing for subs. For example; sub must wear skirts and dresses everyday instead of sub must not wear pants or shorts.

Frequent adjustments in BDSM dress protocol are allowed and in fact, recommended to prevent boredom from setting in. 

First, the dress protocol should be maintained with little or no interaction from the dom partner. If a sub goes against the dress protocol, then you may help them get back on track with punishment as stated in your contract or positive reinforcement.

One thing to keep in mind about dress protocols is that they are usually meant for specific occasions or situations. Although some people find rules constraining, BDSM clothing control is one way kink couples keep the fire burning in their relationship. Would you give it a try? Have fun and let us know how it goes.