Happy Locktober!
Happy Locktober!
05-24-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
As a woman, dominating your husband in bed could feel weird. The reason is not far-fetched from the fact that it breaks all the societal stereotypes we've internalized. Should your dominant fantasies now be thrown into the drain because of this? Hell no.
How will that happen? This article will teach you how to dominate your man in bed. But first, you will learn and unlearn all the myths concerning being a dominatrix.
Sexual dominance is a core feature of BDSM. The term BDSM stands for bondage, dominance/submission, sadism, and masochism.
Sexual Dominance is therefore the act of exhibiting a set of behaviors and rules that involve controlling a submissive partner for sexual pleasure.
In a BDSM relationship, there is always the dominant and the submissive partner. Each of the partners has specific roles (dom-sub) to play and rules to follow.
Before we go into how to dominate your man in bed, we need to first understand your key roles and responsibilities as a dominant partner. Here are some of them:
One thing to keep in mind as regards dominating your man in bed is that you need to act the part and build the charisma to play the role. Here are some BDSM activities you can practice that will help you dominate your husband sexually:
Eileen M Gormley on Quora also gives examples on how to dominate your man in bed;
“You. On your knees. Now take off my shoes. Carefully. Put them away. No licking. Now unzip my dress. Slowly. No touching me though. That’s a privilege you must earn….”
And so on. You can do all the usual things you do, but you give the orders. If you want a foot rub, tell him to do it, and make sure he does it the way you want it. Or a really long luxurious back rub.
As a reward, you can allow him to touch you. Or spank him. Up to you.
CantStopStaring on Reddit also suggests;
If you're not sure, one thing you could start with would be to kneel him up on the bed, ass against the headboard or wall, and tie his hands in place. Blindfold him, then lay on your stomach in front of him and tease him with oral (and whatever else comes to mind) for an hour or so.
● ARE THERE RISKS TO BE CONSIDERED BEFORE DOMINATING MY BOYFRIEND IN BED?
There are important safety precautions to consider before stepping into BDSM. Ensure you communicate limits and establish safe words with your man before any BDSM activity. This goes a long way in alienating any risk of injury.
● HOW DO I KNOW IF MY BOYFRIEND WANTS TO BE DOMINATED?
One sure way to know if your partner wants to be dominated is if they explicitly tell you. You may also find out by paying attention to their body language and physical cues in some everyday low-risk situations. For example, take a part of their meal at the table and make eye contact.
There is no way the idea that all men enjoy dominating and all women enjoy being the submissive partner in the bedroom should be the norm. Break out of that societal norm and fulfill all your fantasies. Good luck, Dominatrix!
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure"
Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices for educational and entertainment purposes.