Planning Your 1st Contact With A Mistress? Check These 10 Tips

If you are about to meet and get adventurous with your Mistress, then you should read this. Below are top 10 rules, which if followed, will not only make your meeting smooth but also one to remember.

Considering this is your first meeting, you are probably unsure what the preferences or style of your Mistress are. Hence, using a formal tone puts you on the safe side, whether your Mistress is friendly or strict. Showing some humility in your messages will make her feel in-charge, and help you get started on a remarkable front. For more guidance on how to start your submissive journey, check out our detailed guide.

Extend the same attitude you show during official and business meetings to your Mistress. Avoid the “F” words or any other profane remarks. While you both may get freaky at subsequent meetings, you must show strong morals during the first meeting. 

The point above suggests that 10-15 sentences are ideal for your first email. However, you must capture all the essential information in a few sentences. Doing otherwise will force the Mistress to reply with more questions for you, thus stalling your interaction. For best results, your first message MUST include a name. You may use your real name or choose a unique and not too vague nick. Add your location or where you will travel (for Mistresses that travel a lot). Also, state your fetish interests – those things you crave or might be interested in trying. Lastly, state your request, backed by a precise explanation. If you're looking to explore various fetishes, you might find our ultimate list of femdom kinks helpful.

As tempting as it may be to appear naughty, freaky, or manipulative, avoid it when sending your first message. These attitudes are great only when introduced in the dungeon. A clear instance of manipulation is showing annoyance with the hope that you get insulted and humiliated by the Mistress in her reply. This may jeopardize your chances, especially if your Mistress is very experienced. Even if she ends up annoyed as you would expect, you and your intents would come as ‘time-wasting’ rather than impressive. In the worst scenarios, you may be blacklisted. 

Rather than bombard your Mistress with several questions, check online for her website or blogs. Information from these resources will help you get familiar with your Mistress. This speeds up the talking phase and presents you as a serious person to her. The fact that you know some basics about your Mistress indicates that you are not just another attention seeker. If you're interested in learning more about different Mistresses and their experiences, you might want to check out our Mistress Interview series.

Do you still have questions to ask your Mistress even after the research? Combine all of these questions into one email and send it. One-liner messaging will do a lot of harm to your communication with your Mistress. 

Avoid language, grammar, punctuation, or spelling errors in your texts. You may use online writing tools to perfect your texts before sending them. Also, factor in your findings on your Mistress when writing to her. What’s her preferred language of communication? Is she a fan of short or long paragraphs? Does she prefer coded or straightforward texts? Know all these and apply them to your writing. 

In all, keep it simple and correct. Your Mistress may lose interest if it takes extra effort to understand your messages. 

Yes, the nine rules above are essential. However, the tenth and most important rule is to express yourself. Present yourself to her as a well-spoken, polite, and subservient sub. Avoid robotic intonations, tones, or approach. Show your creative side alongside a bit of your personality. You never can tell what precisely will interest your Mistress. For more insights on how to be a good submissive, you might find our guide on unwritten rules for being a good submissive helpful.

Conclusively, we understand how tricky it can be to apply the 10 tips/rules discussed above. To make things easier, we have created a perfect example of a first-time message to a Mistress below: 

Dear Mistress,

Your profile and photos are quite impressive. It is difficult to ignore your sheer dominance and commanding beauty. I base in (include your city and country). Is this part of your routes? I am a fan of (insert your fetish list) and eagerly look forward to serving as your slave. I will be delighted to hear from you. What would be your most convenient time to talk, Goddess? 

I look forward to your instructions, 

Slave “insert unique nick” from Amsterdam.